Cold Feet and Warm Hearts – Are You Afraid to Get Married?

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Unsplash 2017  Having a cold feel is a normal part of getting married. How do you cope?
Sarah Fader, Contributor
CEO – Stigma Fighters

I’m a naturally anxious person, so when I read things like “getting married causes people anxiety,” I almost want to laugh. Everything causes me anxiety. But, I understand why marriage would make people feel anxious. You’re about to commit to spending the rest of your life with one person. You’re saying, this is my person and I’m going to stop looking for another person to be with. That’s pretty deep. Before you walk down that aisle you have a lot of things to consider. First, read this pre-marital article, which outlines topics to discuss with a counselor/therapist before you get married.

This makes sense to me because if you’re anxious about settling down, talking with a therapist might help ease that anxiety. Sure, you can talk to your partner about your anxiety, but it might be awkward to do that. They might interpret your anxiety as ambivalence to get married. It’s natural to feel nervous before making a big life change. Getting married is exciting but could also be scary. Some people are extremely independent and see marriage as a threat to that independence. In reality it’s not a comprise of your independence, it’s actually going to strengthen you. As long as you’re not involved in a co-dependent relationship, your marriage will help you grow as a person.

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